MẸ CHỒNG LÀM… DÂU

“Ai cũng một thời làm dâu có ngày sẽ thành mẹ chồng…” (Xin lỗi nhạc sĩ Trần Long Ẩn)

Phàm đã là phụ nữ 80% khi “buôn dưa lê” lúc trẻ đem chuyện mẹ chồng ra kể về già lại nói xấu con dâu. Mình nhớ hồi xưa ở lớp tiếng Pháp mình dạy có chị học viên là bác sĩ chuyên khoa cấp hai. Ngày nào đến lớp cũng có câu: “Hôm qua Thanh Hoa nhà tớ…” (Xin lỗi nghệ sĩ Thanh Hoa – Tại chị hát quá hay. Còn bà mẹ chồng của chị bác sĩ lại “hát” bất kể sớm trưa chiều tối). Nếu làm thống kê chính thức mình tin là có tới 90% các bà mẹ chồng lúc mới đón con dâu về nhà đều có câu: “ngày xưa mẹ về làm dâu bà nội…” (Kinh hoàng nhé! Các cô sướng thế còn kêu ca gì!)

Bà mợ mình làm dâu đến gần bảy mươi. Dâu rể cháu con đầy nhà mà vẫn bị mẹ chồng đem ra kể tội với vợ thằng đích tôn của cụ. Mợ sắc thuốc hay mua đồ ăn sáng bưng lên bà ngoại mình vẫn bảo: “Chị một nửa tôi một nửa. Biết đâu chị lại chẳng thù tôi mà cho thuốc độc vào”. (Con gái mình sợ quá dặn trước: sau này mẹ đừng giống cụ he he. Có Trời mà biết!)

Mẹ đẻ mình thấy con trai giặt giũ quần áo lau nhà đổ rác thì xót xa. Nhưng lại trách con rể vô tâm không biết chia sẻ việc nhà với vợ. (Chỉ có con gái các cụ đi làm dâu mới cực. Cụ làm mẹ chồng thì… hết ý vân vân!!!)

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Chị bạn đồng nghiệp của mình người Thái Lan. Con trai lấy vợ người Mỹ gốc Trung quốc. Ngày đầu tiên được làm bà nội gặp ai chị cũng khoe rối rít. Sau đó còn hứa với con dâu sẽ sử dụng 60 ngày phép tích cóp trong cả chục năm mỗi tuần nghỉ hai ngày sang chăm cháu cho con dâu nghỉ ngơi tĩnh dưỡng. Đi lại được một tháng chị đến văn phòng mặt buồn so. Kể rằng con dâu đề ra quy định trước khi bước vào phòng trẻ phải rửa tay sát trùng và thay quần áo mới. Chị than thở: “Ngày xưa tôi còn nuôi được chồng nó cho ăn học để trở thành bác sĩ. Chẳng lẽ bây giờ tôi không chăm nổi cháu nội mình?”  (Ngày xưa thấy mẹ chồng mút mũi cho thằng cháu đích tôn mình cũng lăn tăn. Dâu “tây” nó dám nói thẳng nói thật).

Chị bạn khác có mỗi cậu con trai. Hai vợ chồng nhà giáo về hưu ở nhà tập thể ba chục mét vuông được phân từ thời bao cấp. Con trai lấy vợ nhà ngoại mua cho căn hộ dưới Linh Đàm. Cuối tuần mẹ chồng nhỏ nhẹ gọi điện thăm dò ý kiến con dâu: “Ngày mai nếu các con không bận cố gắng mang Cún về chơi với ông bà nhé. Ông bà nhớ nó quá”. Con dâu đồng ý thì mẹ chồng tất bật chợ búa từ sáng sớm. Mười giờ là nhà cửa cơm nước đã lau li. Chị sợ con dâu đến chơi phải vào bếp thì nó sẽ ngại không muốn đi. Báo hại hai ông bà già hôm nào con trai gọi điện báo có việc đột xuất Cún không về được. Đồ ăn hâm lại cả mấy ngày tiếp theo.

Lại một chị nữa tổ chức cưới vợ cho con trai nhưng bà nội không được mời đến dự. Quà cho cháu dâu phải nhờ chuyển qua các bác. Chị và mẹ chồng “từ” mặt nhau hơn mười năm nay. Anh chồng ở giữa như gà mắc tóc.

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image Chuyện mẹ chồng nàng dâu vốn dĩ là đề tài từ cổ chí kim. Nàng Scheherazade khi xưa có thể mua vui cho Vua Shahryar tới vài ngàn đêm chứ không chỉ dừng lại ở con số 1001.

Khi xưa vì quá nghèo nhiều gia đình phải “tam tứ đại đồng đường”. Mẹ chồng có quyền uy tối thượng. Sự riêng tư của mỗi cặp vợ chồng được che chắn bằng một vách liếp thủng lỗ chỗ hay tấm màn gió mỏng dính. Trở mình khe khẽ cũng làm cho chiếc giường ba xà mua theo giấy đăng ký kết hôn rít lên cọt kẹt. Bố chồng ở gác lửng ngay sát trên đình màn thở dài. Mẹ chồng nằm trên phản kê cách một chiếc bàn ho húng hắng. Con trai dạy vợ: “Bố mẹ tôi là nhất”. Con dâu làm quần quật đến sát ngày sinh vẫn không theo kịp mẹ chồng “hồi xưa…”

Ngày nay phần lớn các cặp uyên ương ra khỏi phòng cưới là đưa nhau về thẳng nhà riêng. Dẫu chỉ là căn phòng 12m2 đi thuê cũng vẫn là thiên đường hạnh phúc. Những cuộc “xung đột” khi không có các “phe đồng minh” tham chiến thường rất dễ ngồi vào bàn đàm phán.

Con dâu “lên ngôi” vì đẻ ra cháu nội. Mẹ chồng thương con yêu cháu sẽ đi làm… dâu.

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